March 31, 2021

65. Overthinking Vortex of Doom!

65. Overthinking Vortex of Doom!

"Our minds are incredibly adaptable. We can make it do anything! But, overthinking creates patterns of thought that lead to entanglement." Helen provides funny and practical examples of how to curb our vortex of overthinking Episode Summary ...


"Our minds are incredibly adaptable. We can make it do anything! But, overthinking creates patterns of thought that lead to entanglement." Helen provides funny and practical examples of how to curb our vortex of overthinking


Episode Summary

  1. [00:00:00] The Toothbrush in the Toilet Analogy – Helen draws this analogy to describe the destruction that is overthinking
  2. [00:02:32] Overthinking + Vortex = a consistent energy mass of a behemoth when we apply a habit of analytical thinking and problem solving to a situation that is unhelpful or unproductive.
  3. [00:04:06] How to shift our focus: on the limitless capacity of the present moment

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Transcript

Over-Over Thinking?

Hello, welcome to who you needed. My name is Helen grace. Before I begin today's episode, I want to share a personal story with you. The other day I was brushing my teeth and I tripped over the rug and I saw my toothbrush fly straight out of my hand, do backflips and almost hit the toilet. I instinctively grabbed my left hand out and I caught it right before it was going to fall into the toilet bowl. Can you imagine that. And then an idea immediately dawned on my head that the spiral of overthinking feels like the repetitive loop of thinking that your toothbrush is going to fall into the toilet out of sheer desperation. The shock of reaching out your hand, hoping that you'll catch it. And instead of a toothbrush, it's your dreams and your thinking over and over. Am I going to catch it? Am I going to catch it?

[00:00:52] Today's episode explores how to stop what I like to call the overflow vortex. Stay tuned. It's going to be a fun one.

[00:01:21] came. You stayed and you listened. I'm really grateful for you. Before I start talking about the vortex that is overthinking. I want to thank one of my recent listeners, Charles Andrews. He recently made a five-star review on Apple podcasts and I read every single review makes me cry every single time.

[00:01:46] Charles wrote, I love listening to this podcast late at night, as I'm winding down from a tough day. Helen has the ability to draw the listener in from the first second and is so relatable. A lot of times, I just need to hear someone who thinks through things like I do. And that's Helen. She does a great job of being real, vulnerable and uplifting. I love the practical advice she provides and it's inspiring to hear her growth as time goes on. I highly recommend that everyone listens to this by Charles Andrews. Thanks, Charles, I appreciate you. It brings me a lot of joy that this has served you and helped you. That's. My only mission is to help creators who are just passionate about health and longevity.

[00:02:32] And I hope this episode serves you as well. So on with the vortex of overthinking, before I even define overthinking, I wanted to find what vortex even means. I looked up the term. And the term vortex is actually a plural or Texas occur when fluid, multiple vorticies move in the same direction to form momentum of energy. Funny enough that vortex and overthinking kind of go hand in hand. When more than one thought accumulates and goes towards the same direction and forms an energy/ mass. It creates this monster  bohemoth, what is now called a spinning vortex. Similar to a vortex overthinking happens when we apply a habit of analytical thinking and problem solving to a situation that is unhelpful or unproductive.

[00:03:31] Our minds are incredibly adaptable. We can make it, do anything. But overthinking creates patterns of thought that just lead to tangle after tangle, instead of overthinking, we must execute. Cause oftentimes overthinking can be curved when we actually do something about it, rather than stay stuck in our heads, we can make our brains do anything, but it starts with the story that we tell ourselves in a book by Ryan holiday called the obstacle is the way.

[00:04:04] He says that the greatest thinkers accept what is, but don't provide interpretations about what the event might mean as humans. We have this amazing capacity to recognize patterns and execute decisions, but sometimes when we're so stuck in past patterns, we lose sight of the present moment. We forget to focus on the limitless capacity of the future and the present.

[00:04:33] I'm saying this because of personal experience. Last week, I was only able to publish one episode when I had recorded about six episodes that I wanted to get out into the world. Every day, every day, I had a free flow of thought, but I kept hindering my own flow because I complicated the system. I thought about all the ways that my audio may have been wrong.

[00:04:59] The ways that. I wasn't attaining the vision that I had for myself. And I recognize now that that overthinking pattern inhibited me from execution. I've been reading a lot of books about this, cause I recognize that it's a very repetitive pattern that can happen to everyone, but it it's definitely happened to me a couple of times.

[00:05:22] And one consistent thing keeps coming up. That behavior is a repetitive loop. There's a cue. There's the habit. And then there's the reward. Oftentimes, when I see all of my notifications in the morning and I see all the posts, I tend to get into a pattern of overthinking of what I can do versus what I should do.

[00:05:45] And there's a difference. I think that when you set intentional goals for yourself, there should be a daily practice of giving time to yourself to have that sense of quiet. To pull back a little bit that keeps you from overthinking. When you give yourself the opportunity to rest in what. You're passionate about for me, I've made the mistake of checking my phone very early in the morning.

[00:06:08] And as a result, it creates a queue of scrolling through social media and the reward of seeing all the likes, seeing all the comments, but it is at the expense of losing valuable time. To sit with myself and to execute what I actually want to be doing. And for me, that looks like podcast producing, writing, thinking about how I can make the day, the best day that I've ever had, because we are only guaranteed today. We are only guaranteed. Now. We don't know what will happen. And I don't want to spend my life being informed by what other people are thinking and lose sight of my voice. Sometimes our internal dialogue could actually come from the repetitive tape that we play ourselves and that tape could look like checking our feet very early in the morning. And I'm speaking about myself.

[00:06:58] I've had to be very strict about turning off my phone when I am doing very deep or. When we're stimulated by so much distraction, it keeps us from being focused on execution. And I've realized that overthinking has its roots in habit. It's a habit to overthink. And in order to curb that habit, I have to replace it with the good ones. And part of that good habit is having dedicated time to execute rather than overthinking until it drives you nuts. Right now I'm working on turning off my phone. Two hours before I go to bed, I'm really taking Cal Newport's advice on deep work, dedicating four hours of uninhibited block time to just concentrate on what really matters is actually the same thing that Gary Keller says. And the one thing. The same thing. Jay Shetty says in think like a monk having concentrated time to really be still it's in Ryan. Holiday's the obstacle is the way the power of habit by Charles Duhigg deep work by Cal Newport. It's embedded in almost every book I've read on productivity. And for me, I finally decided to take that advice and it's worked. It's worked because instead of focusing so much on the problem, I've began to focus on solutions. How I can. Turn the situation around or the overthinking around to a place where I'm actually doing something about it has helped me immensely where your focus goes, your energy flows, and I've decided to focus my energy. On building productive systems that will allow me to get 1% better every day. I may not get 15% better, but I can get better 1% every day. By the end of the year, I'll be 365% better than I was a year ago. And that's all that anyone can really hope for. So I hope this helped you. I hope this served you. My name is Helen from who you needed.com. Thank you so much for listening. If you like episodes like these, go ahead and hit subscribe or follow. And if you're listening to this in 2021 of March 31st, a brand new episode will be coming out with a mystery guest on Friday, April 2nd. Tune in. See you next time. .